tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3813761.comments2023-12-07T03:10:25.030-08:00HSP NotesPeter Mhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08413240103371243243noreply@blogger.comBlogger378125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3813761.post-68889965969129804272018-04-27T15:05:58.427-07:002018-04-27T15:05:58.427-07:00I learned that I was an HSP from my therapist abou...I learned that I was an HSP from my therapist about nine months ago. Being curious, I stared reading all the material I could get my hands on and honest to say it has been a revelation. It has explained a lot about what I have done and the decisions made in my life. It has allowed me to think about how to best use my trait in the future and help build my life around it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3813761.post-53017992336830281582018-04-27T15:01:43.680-07:002018-04-27T15:01:43.680-07:00For me, the journey has just started. I was in th...For me, the journey has just started. I was in therapy for three years before my therapist told me he thought I was Highly Sensitive. Once this piece of information was given, I started reading every book I could get my hands on about the topic, including the works by Elaine Aron and Ted Zeff. The books described me so well and once I started reading them they were impossible to put down! Also, it is interesting to realize that being highly sensitive might of had to do with misdiagnoses given in the past by well meaning therapists. It has been a long journey, but it has been well worth it to discover more about this wonderful trait.hspguyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13192776523544647146noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3813761.post-9401565132494714892018-04-18T14:01:37.637-07:002018-04-18T14:01:37.637-07:00Thank you for sharing this. I am an HSP (extremel...Thank you for sharing this. I am an HSP (extremely overstimulated) searching for a therapist. And the mean responses that I have gotten so far from therapists has been shocking! I am asking them if they are experienced with or open to working with HSPs. They tell me its "not a real thing", "can't be diagnosed", and one therapist was so mean to me, and scoffed and laughed as he said "so you're highly sensitive? how is believing that working out for you?" Just so discouraging...Kia Chereenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3813761.post-86827271279964996722018-03-30T12:30:20.019-07:002018-03-30T12:30:20.019-07:00It can take a while, and everyone learns at their ...It can take a while, and everyone learns at their own pace. One of the things that took me a long time to understand and recognize is that much of my background "sadness" was the result of rather pervasive existential depression. All the best on your journey!Peter Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08413240103371243243noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3813761.post-4190488368070667062018-03-30T12:28:15.766-07:002018-03-30T12:28:15.766-07:00Thanks for the comment Deborah! Sounds like you...Thanks for the comment Deborah! Sounds like you're well on your way to integration. Childhood trauma is one of the tough areas to work with; experience tells me that HSPs often experience difficulties "more intensely" in such a way that the memories are burned in more permanently. But eventually we CAN shake loose the old patterns.Peter Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08413240103371243243noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3813761.post-55728209792768704152018-03-30T11:29:19.573-07:002018-03-30T11:29:19.573-07:00I am still trying to figure out how being an HSP a...I am still trying to figure out how being an HSP affects me in all areas of life, especially my health as I perceive the world in a way that causes me quiet anxiety and constant sadness.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3813761.post-30451761046390698552018-03-30T02:27:11.317-07:002018-03-30T02:27:11.317-07:00I've only just discovered the HSP trait a few ...I've only just discovered the HSP trait a few years ago and it felt like the missing puzzle piece of my life had finally fallen into place. I an still excited to share thus trait with others, since it seems so few still know about it, so I want others to feel empowered like I did if they discover that they too are hsp. I don't read the stuff on HSP FB pages anymore, as it is no longer necessary for me to compare my experiences with others. I am still teying to heal grom childhood trauma, so remembering that I'm an HSP through the process, reminds me that my journey might be more intense because of my sensitivity. Thanks for the article...I enjoyed reading about your outlook.Deborahnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3813761.post-55718337575946889932018-03-26T04:42:45.850-07:002018-03-26T04:42:45.850-07:00This ia a nice article. I personally being an HSP ...This ia a nice article. I personally being an HSP have also have the feelings of degrading my WhatsApp to lower versions without status update. Mark Zuckerberg of Facebook himself is an HSP too. <br />That reminds me of this quote👇👇👇<br /><br /><br />We HSP (Highly Sensitive People) do have a rich, complex inner life.<br /><br />People wanted the outcome and the fruit of out trait. But they didn't want out trait.<br /><br />Today, we all use Facebook, a social media created by an HSP (Mark Zuckerberg). Meanwhile, no one wants the trait that gave such people the creativity to come up with a beautiful idea, but they all love the outcome of their inner thought. It takes an HSP to know what the insensitive world wants and then turn WhatsApp around. We are blessed with a beautiful trait.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03177598607694272267noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3813761.post-40808746219270049592018-03-13T06:28:52.616-07:002018-03-13T06:28:52.616-07:00Two hsp people together,both start in their relati...Two hsp people together,both start in their relationship as self aware, but partially unavailable emotionally. I think because of comfort zones and protection. They have children and one realizes through this change that she needs more through this time from pregnancy to parenting together and being intimate partners. She is willing to step out of her comfort zone to get to a more healthy balanced place but he seems to be unaware of his need and benefits ofgrowing the relationship.e engulfed in his business/mission work.never initiating things, even rejecting attempts to connect.it was not so difficult to connect in the beg but I did initiate.but I am an hsp introvert!there must be some give and take with making effort. Anyway, what do you do when you value family and want your children to have both parents with them, but you are not getting what you need and I mean the essentials.i have been gentle but direct and patient for 6 years.any body have advice?by the way I have been on a self love journey for the past 9years and it has expanded my love for self and others, however through dreamwork I realized I have a belief that there are few people who appreciate who I am. He appeared to be appreciate who I was at first so I think I was not so strict in judging certain things. And maybe he did accept who I was but not who I expanded to be during the relationship. <br /> Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3813761.post-84620914889113831122018-01-16T16:56:41.435-08:002018-01-16T16:56:41.435-08:00I relate to this as well. I’ve had to learn to ste...I relate to this as well. I’ve had to learn to step back and be careful how I react as that may be taken out of context as well. It’s a blessing and a curse. I also find that it goes along with a gift of discernment. So balance is heyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3813761.post-9045239887256494602018-01-16T12:43:04.024-08:002018-01-16T12:43:04.024-08:00I just realized that I am an HSP. I always felt d...I just realized that I am an HSP. I always felt different and never felt like I belonged. I can relate to your post. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3813761.post-12471815557643933382018-01-03T00:33:12.883-08:002018-01-03T00:33:12.883-08:00I was diagnosed with ADHD-inattentive about 2 year...I was diagnosed with ADHD-inattentive about 2 years ago (I’m 24) and have been on medication since. I’ve always displayed the traits of an HSP, with a combination of bold extroversion in some situations.<br />In fact, most people are surprised when I tell them how I feel after being social for an extended period of time without the time to recharge. <br /><br />My history is different from most of my social group. I grew up in a very difficult and abusive environment that amplified the extremely co-dependent behavior in my mother. In short, I was the mediator between my parent’s abusive relationship, the bulldog when my mother didn’t want to be the bad guy, the fixer with anyone and everything, leaving me emotionally drained and desperate to please my mother in any way (anxious-attachment). Surviving two wars before I turned 11, almost being killed on multiple occassions, while my father made random appearances to terrorize me and my mother. As a child, I had to grow up and deal with the adult cards I was dealt. As a young adult, I had to care for my foreign/needy parents because the guilt of not doing so killed me. Again, everyone first and me last. <br /><br />In the last several years, I’ve become more aware of myself and have taken interest in why I feel the way I do. I feel that introspection wouldn’t have been possible if I had stayed near my extremely disfunctional family dynamic. I can attribute a great deal of my focus to being on ADHD meds, however, I sometimes wonder whether it’s making my life harder than it needs to be. I lose a great deal of time feeling exhausted, then my medication makes me alert, then a crash, then some irritability, and the eventual crash that gets me to bed. It’s a viscious cycle that’s fueled with anxiety and depression on a very consistent basis. <br /><br />Being gifted, being different, being attractive while being different is treated as a taboo by most men I come across. It’s a very confusing life of knowing what is and isn’t considered okay but I feel like that concern is deeply rooted in our HSP tendency to people please. I recently read a great book on that concept and it’s made my life a whole lot easier. I think many HSPs are concerned with being good and doing good, while we miss out on actually being who we are. It’s our urge to please others that causes us so much personal distress. So, to wrap all of this up, I hope me sharing my personal struggles will bring a somewhat different perespectice on HSP’s with ADHD as I think I’m the only one who’s currently on meds (and sorry if I missed anyone). <br /><br />AND because of my recent people pleasing knowledge, I will resist the urge to apologize for going off topic and rambling to you all �� <br /><br />And many thanks to the doctor above that commented in Dec of 2014. As a med student, it’s comforting to know that HSPs can thrive in the medical field without losing our minds. <br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3813761.post-64669808360834716452017-11-07T06:37:24.877-08:002017-11-07T06:37:24.877-08:00Is there anyone of HSPs who has already met his lo...Is there anyone of HSPs who has already met his love and can tell us of his or her brilliant experience? How have you met, what had been before you meeting and how you feel now.<br />In order to give the rest of us hope and reduce that mad fear of enourmous pain and emotinal storm, which accompanies every poor romance of a HSP. Please, help us, you - happy HSP- :))))Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3813761.post-66027054033243802017-09-08T21:50:14.940-07:002017-09-08T21:50:14.940-07:00This article is great. I like hearing that all the...This article is great. I like hearing that all these things are one big swirl of experience! I have looked at things through the eyes of an artist and that helps. I have watched my spirit be moved with the ancient and new tools of meditation/prayer/yoga. I used to get lost in books as a child. In music as a young adult. I have held onto the Bene Gesserit mantra about noticing the fear and noticing it pass through and noticing only I remain. All of it works. For a second. Then there you are. The rest of the time you should just manage your being. Eat, drink, sleep, say hi to others. Work and do stuff. Be dumb, awesome, ridiculous, but don't think for a second that your special movie is more special than the one inside that other being. Maybe humility is the cure for suicidal impulses. It sort of worked for me. Tolerate yourself at least. Be open to the idea that being a breathing loving hating needing sorrowful joyful being is a constant wonder. Just plain divine really. Why not? (Thanks for the forum)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3813761.post-7233550656970688522017-08-22T09:28:52.830-07:002017-08-22T09:28:52.830-07:00I am exactly the same. This blog is exactly what I...I am exactly the same. This blog is exactly what I need to do, sit down and list out the triggers that I can't handle. I feel like a crazy person when the smallest thing will set me off after I'm over stimulated. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16267396609823205381noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3813761.post-80467712757060259802017-08-12T22:30:19.556-07:002017-08-12T22:30:19.556-07:00Awesome postAwesome postPeter Floydhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14532264814565369687noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3813761.post-45113088234521063752017-07-20T12:34:02.818-07:002017-07-20T12:34:02.818-07:00Hi, there. My recent approach to the overstimulati...Hi, there. My recent approach to the overstimulation thing, is to try to meditate as often as I can. 1 session for 10 minutes in the morning and 1 session in the evening. Also in day, I try to close my eyes and tale deep breaths as often as I can. But its very difficult, to overcome this overstimulation thing. Very often I find myself very annoyed, irritated and angry after a social event, and the only thing than helps is alone time, with either meditation or lying on the couch doing nothing, maybe reading a book ��Lassenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3813761.post-26023952612883836672017-07-06T16:55:35.652-07:002017-07-06T16:55:35.652-07:00Thank you for this. Somebody somewhere seems to un...Thank you for this. Somebody somewhere seems to understand me. Apparently Sensitivehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16938885857448428754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3813761.post-89016905977358949922017-06-12T12:14:34.438-07:002017-06-12T12:14:34.438-07:00Hi, I'm looking for some counseling in San Ant...Hi, I'm looking for some counseling in San Antonio, TX. I would a prefer a therapist with knowledge of HSPs. Any recommendations for me? thank you. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3813761.post-26918861545010112017-05-11T08:59:45.562-07:002017-05-11T08:59:45.562-07:00I am in exactly the same place. Trying to love as...I am in exactly the same place. Trying to love as much as I can while I'm here.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06141985920994075665noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3813761.post-68780395832120489282017-03-24T16:31:43.260-07:002017-03-24T16:31:43.260-07:00I'd say it's because of a comfort zone. Ma...I'd say it's because of a comfort zone. Maybe in the moment he felt free to tell you a lot and then he remembered that he is HSP, and he got scared of you might hurt him because of knowing too much about him. Maybe he doesn't trust you enough. Maybe you've hurt him without knowing that and he set up boundaries. A lot of girls are manipulative with HSP males and like toying around with them, and maybe he is not pretty sure about your intends (if you are a female). Just talk to him openly and make clear you have good intends. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3813761.post-75485233218831092512017-02-28T04:29:24.234-08:002017-02-28T04:29:24.234-08:00Pisces HSP ADHD INFP or INFJ raised by two women ...Pisces HSP ADHD INFP or INFJ raised by two women AKA A smart hot mess with a good heart lol <br /><br />Opps almost forgot ECTOMORPH lol god i need a sexy female scientist with a good heart cliffhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07726729244732641129noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3813761.post-54813554597572210662016-12-25T17:18:42.626-08:002016-12-25T17:18:42.626-08:00Have you found that HSPs tend to cut off/retreat w...Have you found that HSPs tend to cut off/retreat when confronted with a potential match? There's someone who I'm establishing a connection with right now who is a HSP, I have a certain about of these characteristics myself but he's incredibly intuitive to everything around him. He initiates deep conversations with me and then afterwards sets up boundaries. I'm staying open and letting things come and go but I'm also self doubting myself in a huge way. <br />Any advice from HSPs who've been through this would be greatAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3813761.post-42906501868548218712016-12-06T22:56:20.427-08:002016-12-06T22:56:20.427-08:00I completely resonate with everything you have wro...I completely resonate with everything you have wrote. I too have been in a fog of what is going on in my life. Everything in my middle 30's seems nothing less than a huge mess that I cannot seem to get a grip on. My sensitivity is not seeming to show any positive feedback lately due to my feeling lost in who I am anymore. I don't even recognize myself. My sleep patterns are so off that I sleep for days and then I am awake for a day other two. While I am up, I feel like I rarely do anything productive with my time anymore besides look for jobs on the Internet, which has been made into a joke by pop ups and misguided questions leading no where. I don't even know what kind of job I want to do anymore! Although I am capable of many,nothing seems to be enough for me anymore. I just want to be happy,laugh,feel and not be judged on how sensitive and over ambitious I can be. I can feel the shifts of things happening around me,but I wish i knew where I fit in to it all. <br />Thank you for writing this,at least i know I am not alone. Paigenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3813761.post-86957465970667104322016-12-06T11:49:42.516-08:002016-12-06T11:49:42.516-08:00After just experiencing a very stressful several m...After just experiencing a very stressful several months (including a series of deaths of people in my life and other serious matters that essentially put life on hold) I've learned a few things about dealing with overwhelm. When I'm in overwhelm, my energy levels are very low, so I feel exhausted much of the time. Small things take an inordinate emotional toll; my responses are larger than they would be otherwise and take far longer to process. So I do what I need; that is allow things to backlog, chip away at them but don't push myself too hard. I am kind to myself, giving myself the time I need for me as much as I can and making sure I eat well and get enough time for sleep when I can. I know that in time, I will recover and until then, I am simply patient with myself. <br /><br />I also do my best not to take on the stress of the rest of the world, but I do help out where it makes sense to when it does. Pulling back to see a very large picture helps. Very long term historical perspectives helps to not be overwhelmed with the present. Again, with time, all things pass.<br /><br />Peter, an aside; would you share the links here on where you post your "more inflammatory political and social commentary"? I'd love to read them.melodiccolorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10163674521029805017noreply@blogger.com